Hello, Beauties! We finally made it into 2021, and we didn’t turn into zombies. Yay! That is definitely something to celebrate. So what have I been doing? Well, I’ve been trying to promote my book, which you can buy on Amazon by clicking here. Shameless plug. I know.

Ok, back to my post. Today, I want to give you TWO questions. As you can tell from the title, one is about a fake accent (not Hilaria/Hilary) and one is about a crush on a co-worker. Both questions come from Slate magazine, which you can find here. So, let’s get started.

My girlfriend took a deep dive into British-themed TV—The Crown, Downton Abbey, Fleabag, Bridgerton—over the course of the pandemic. She has adopted an affected accent that sounds vaguely British in both vocabulary and her inflection. Her vowels sound strange, and she phrases all her questions in a very “British” way. I know I shouldn’t mind, but Prudie—it drives me crazy! She’s not British in any way and it feels like she’s trying too hard to be someone she’s not. It reminds me of the kids in middle school who adopted accents in misguided bids for attention. I’ve tried to bring it up with lighthearted jokes, but she’s not getting the hint. Am I crossing the line or being too controlling if I ask her to tone down the accent?

https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/01/girlfriend-faking-british-accent-dear-prudence-advice.html

Dear suffering boyfriend,

I’m not gonna lie. This made me laugh. I can’t imagine listening to a lame accent all hours of the day. That would also drive me mad. It’s almost like torture. However, there is no need to feel this way. Instead of dropping hints or little jokes, how about talking to one another like adults? In a nice way, let her know how the accent is affecting you. Ask her if she could tone it down. She obviously does not realize how it is affecting you. It shouldn’t be a big deal for her to stop doing this. It’s just a silly accent. I do accents sometimes. It’s fun, but not all day. Once you two talk about it, things will get better.

I hope this helps. Good luck to you.

On to the next question. It reads:

I recently realized I was feeling attracted to this guy I work with. The problem is that I am currently in a relationship. I’ve been with my boyfriend for five years and it’s great. We are best friends, our sex life is great, and we have a great time. I can’t imagine not being with him. But every time I come to work and work with this guy, I turn into a nervous wreck. I can’t stop thinking about him, and I have these fantasies about him. But at the same time, I would never try to pursue it if something ever did happen. I’m pretty sure he is in a relationship as well. Is it normal to feel this way? I feel like I’m betraying my boyfriend. I get upset thinking about the idea of cheating on him. How do I stop feeling this way? Do I talk to my boyfriend about it?

https://slate.com/human-interest/2021/01/girlfriend-faking-british-accent-dear-prudence-advice.html

Dear LW,

I don’t see anything wrong with having a crush. I mean, I have crushes on Jason Momoa, Idris Elba, and Henry Cavill. **shrugs** I will probably still have crushes on them when I’m in a relationship. However, I don’t work with any of those guys or see them in person on a regular basis. In that way, things differ. From what you have said, you have not crossed the line and don’t plan to. You have not flirted with him or asked for his number. I don’t see the big deal with having a crush.

As far as telling your boyfriend, I wouldn’t. It would probably cause unnecessary arguments, especially since nothing has happened. Your boyfriend will become jealous and begin questioning you every day about this man. Don’t do this to yourself. If you want to talk about crushes with your boyfriend, talk about your celebrity crushes and gauge how he reacts. Encourage him to tell you some of his crushes. Just remember, it hits different when you talk about a crush who sits across from you at work.

Just keep things casual with your co-worker. Strictly professional. You don’t need to get caught up in any “entanglements.”

Good luck to you.

~Jana Leigh

If you have a question you’d like for me to answer, please, contact me at AskJanaLeigh@gmail.com.