Hello again, Peeps!

I have a great letter from Ask E. Jean at Elle magazine.  Buckle up.  It’s a bumpy ride.

I’m a professor at a small liberal arts college. During a very tempestuous four-year relationship with a scientist, I had sex with his colleague, and he retaliated by having sex with my best friend, so we broke up. Only problem is he’s now getting married, and we’re still talking on the phone constantly and having sex. We’ll probably continue to have sex after he’s married, because my trouble is that I love him, and I know he loves me. Do I call it quits or try to stop the wedding? Am I the right woman or the other woman? —Warped by Love

Dear Warped,

Wow. Just…. Wow.  There are so many things wrong with this letter.  Where do I start?  I have so many questions.  First of all, why are you sleeping with a man and his colleague?  Why would you think that was a good idea?  It’s not. The fact that he “retaliated” by sleeping with your best friend should prove to you that he’s disgusting.  Plus, why did your BEST friend sleep with a guy you’re sleeping with?  She broke Girl Code #1. If you’re so in love, why is he marrying someone else?  If a guy wants to marry you, he will.  You are NOT the one.  Why should he marry you? You slept with his colleague.  He slept with your best friend, and you’re STILL sleeping with him.  He must have a magic penis. I can’t imagine putting myself through this.

This whole situation is toxic.  Just get away and work on your self-esteem. You deserve much better than this.


~Jana Leigh

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